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What qualities are necessary of a great mentor?

Last weekend I was having a really tough time emotionally. In two days, I probably slept a combined 30 hours with intermittent nightmares. In my awaken state, I was feeling depressed, confused, even suicidal. What the hell was going on?

Because I have consciously created a rock-solid routine, I’m able to spot anomalies that could be derailing me. So in-between moments of slumping depression and debating suicide via jumping out the 2nd-story window head-first, I began journalling.

Too much sugar last night? Nope. My girlfriend’s kids whining? Sort of. That small glass of white wine we received as a gift? Maybe. No response back from a txt I sent my son’s mother? Most likely. Poor sleep the past week? Ok that makes sense.”

Little by little I was connecting the dots from one trigger leading to a stronger trigger, which lead to an even stronger trigger and before I knew it…I had been run over by a gigantic ‘trigger’ snowball flying down the mountain leaving me deflated, despondent and depressed.

Facebook to the rescue.

After two days of my girlfriend asking, “Is there anything I can do to help? What are you feeling right now? Where is this coming from? Should we go to the ER?” And me barely mustering a single-word response, she did what she does best…went onto Facebook for help. She knew the ER, medication, or even coaching was going to help. But she felt her Facebook Friends held the key to my recovery. Previously, she had made a connection with one of my Pranic Healing Masters, who just happened to be online when she sent out the social SOS.

She messaged her explaining the situation and asked if I could receive distant pranic healing immediately. My Master said, “I will start healing him now.”

This all happened without my knowledge. In a couple hours, I was feeling lighter and instead of thoughts of suicide I was having thoughts about the TED Talk I was watching. My girlfriend walked downstairs and said, “I love you very much and Master just gave you a healing.” In that moment, a flood of gratitude and appreciation came over me, bringing me to tears. Thinking of my Master, “She’s always there for me no matter what. And never asks for anything in return.”

I received a Facebook message from my Master a few days later. “How are you doing Christian?”

After a few periods of phone tag, we were able to connect. It had been a year since we last talked. I filled her about my triumphs, which had been many, and then this bizarre weekend of depression. During our talk, she provided insights into how my strengthens and weaknesses could have created this depression and offered suggestions to keep moving me forward in my personal life and my business life of coaching, pranic healing and public speaking.

It seemed as though she was literally reading my inner most beliefs, fears and desires. Its as though she had a copy of my journal in her hands. I’m not talking about a psychic who is really good at ‘cold reading’, I’m talking about someone who knows really knows me deeply and intimately.What a gift to have a mentor like her in my life.

Who is the mentor(s) in your life that you go to when you’re feeling down and out?

I created a list of 10 qualities to be aware of in looking for a great mentor/master/teacher.

In no particular order.

10 Qualities of a Great Mentor:

1. Lives a good life.

Does your potential mentor live a chaotic life of excessive drinking, drugging, laziness, jail time and destroyed relationships at home and abroad? Or does your potential mentor live a life of virtue, health, abundance, influence, respect and service to his community and abroad? In essence, do you want the world he has beyond the shiny objects of his mansion, luxury car or large networth?

2. Does not need you.

A great mentor cannot be bought or corrupted with promises of fame, money or power. His internal state of peace, presence and impartiality is all pervading and indestructible. This is common among the great spiritual teachers like Ramana Maharishi, Eckhart Tolle, Franz Bardon, and MCKS. They have a mission to serve humanity and will do so with or without your assistance. A great mentor does not ‘need’ anything from anyone. 

3. Has a great purpose.

Great mentors have a big calling meant to inspire and/or effect millions of lives. Whether through a product, service, healing or teaching. His motivation is not rooted in more money, more power or more fame, its rooted in service to uplift humanity. A great mentor of mine in Boulder, CO, once said to me when I was an arrogant kid, “Christian, you’re going to realize at some point, life is not just about you, its about service to others. Period.”

4. Been there, done that.

A great mentor has extensive experience of landmine field, knowing where to step and where not to step, without blowing your legs off. His knowledge will accelerate your life by leaps and bounds while saving you years of suffering through lost opportunities, lost money and lost time. A great mentor can see the probable outcome 5 or 10 years down the road of a decision you make now. Its your choice to heed that advice or not. I have a 365-Day Calendar on my desk with quotes from my spiritual teacher, Grandmaster Choa Kok Sui. Today’s quote says, “The Guru can show the way, but you must walk the Path. You must transform yourself.” Meaning your mentor can guide you but you are ultimately responsible for your effectiveness, or lack thereof, to correctly understand and apply that guidance. 

5. Knows when his help is needed.

My greatest mentors have always been there for me without me asking. In my darkest times, I have mysteriously received a phone call, txt message or visitation by my mentors with a soothing message to guide, heal or encourage me. My mentors have, literally and metaphorically, saved my life.

6. Lives a life of mastery.

A great mentor will not only have mastery in their profession, whether as an architect, attorney, real estate investor, medical doctor, or Master Pranic Healer but also mastery of his emotional life. Any anger expressed is purposeful and clearly directed, like a parent yelling at child before placing their hand on a hot stove or running across a busy street. He is the master, not the slave, of his emotions and skillfully uses them to move his great purpose forward.

7. Practices humility.

Humility is the ability to accurately see your strengths and weaknesses then act accordingly. A great mentor is humble in realizing he does not have all the answers but is always seeking higher levels of mastery of resources and knowledge to move his great purpose forward. You will directly benefit from your mentor because of his generosity to share his experience, resources and knowledge with you.

8. Sees and cultivates your greatness.

My greatest mentors have always held the space that I can be, do and have anything I want because I am worthy and capable. A great mentor does not blow smoke up your ass but helps you realize no one is cut from a different cloth. If that person is realizing his potential, I too, can realize mine. A great mentor recognizes that I, like all others, is a being of divine Light (Intelligence), Love and Power (Will). By expressing these three divine qualities I can realize my greatness.

9. Is patient with you.

Have you ever had to change a babies’ diaper? Do you start screaming at the baby saying, “When are you ever gonna learn to use the toilet! Its really not that hard. I’m so tired of this.” No. You change the baby’s diaper realizing that’s what babies do. Its the nature of a baby, which is different than the nature of a toddler, teenager, adult or elderly. Likewise, a great mentor has unlimited patience for you because he knows you will eventually learn your lesson and once that happens, your world will transform. I have struggled with certain lessons for over a decade (probably lifetimes) but my mentors have continued to help me navigate the subtles and nuances of the lesson knowing that one day, I will grow up and stop crapping in my diaper and use the toilet.

10. Loves you.

Most of all, your greatest mentors love you. His love helps to nourish your soul. In spiritual circles, the Guru-Disciple (mentor-mentee) relationship is the most loving and longest lasting of all relationships because ‘he’ is there to help you evolve into the best version of yourself and eventually, reunite with your Divine Spark from whence you came. It is said, while your parents are with you in this life, your Sat Guru (Main Teacher) is your spiritual parent that has been with you throughout the ages and will remain long after you have left this body. ‘His’ love is unconditional and all pervading. The love of the Sat Guru shines like that of the Sun, whether you choose to pull or open the blinds matters not, the Sun never stops shining.

So where do you go to find a great mentor or even your Sat Guru? Hmm. Great question that I don’t have a step by step answer to…yet I can recommend a book that will provide some clarity and awareness of who is currently mentoring you, check out The Master’s Path. I’m always amazed by great books that contain countless gems are usually the smallest, cheapest and unassuming covers.

I truly hope this helps you on your path to physically connecting with your greatest mentors and even your Sat Guru.

I have been blessed with great mentors in my life and even more importantly, the awareness of their existence. How do I pay back people who have given me priceless teachings, blessings and healings and never asked for anything in return? By paying it forward and continuing the process of becoming a great mentor myself. Yikes, I gotta a long way to go.

Getting off the phone with my Master Pranic Healing teacher, I looked at my notes from our talk and thought, “Wow, I have come so far and still have so much farther to go. Thank you Lord for the assistance. How can I pay this forward?” And then got my laptop out and wrote this article.

With Love.

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